A memoir by Joseph Burda
Before Tomorrow Was Gone
Every person has a tomorrow. Until one day, tomorrow changes without warning.
Every person has a tomorrow.
Before the headlines, there was life.
Most of the time, we don't think much about tomorrow.
Tomorrow is another day of school. Another shift at work. Another football game. Another afternoon at the lake. Another chance to see the people we assume will still be there when morning comes.
Until one day, tomorrow changes without warning.
And everything that came before it becomes something else: a memory, a photograph, a voice you can still hear, a place you can close your eyes and walk through even though parts of it no longer exist.
That is where Before Tomorrow Was Gone begins.
Not with what was lost. With what was here.
Before the headlines, there was Dryden, New York—a small town surrounded by farms and hills, where people worked, raised families, ran businesses, taught kids, filled the stands on Friday nights, and showed up for one another because that's what neighbors did.
Dryden was a place in the world where three words said plenty:
Before
Dryden wasn't scenery. It was people.
Friends. Parents. Teachers. Farmers. Business owners. The person behind the counter who knew your name. The family sitting a few rows away on Friday night. People you saw so often that you never stopped to imagine a time when they wouldn't be there.
And Griff.
Griff was one of those friends who didn't need an invitation.
We didn't make appointments to be friends. We just showed up.
Back then, there was no reason to think any of it was important. It was life. Another afternoon. Another adventure. Another tomorrow.
And Griff was still here.
The larger story
A town is more than the worst thing that happened there.
For people outside Dryden, the town's name would eventually become attached to terrible events. But nobody who grew up there lived inside a headline.
We lived in houses and kitchens. On football fields and back roads. In restaurants, garages, classrooms, farms, churches, bars, and beside the lake. We laughed. We screwed up. We worked. We fell in love. We fought. We made plans for weekends and assumed there would be more of them.
Then some tomorrows did not arrive the way anyone expected.
This is the journey from the life we thought would continue forever into the life that had to continue afterward.
When tomorrow felt certain.
Friends, families, football, work, the lake, back roads, laughter, and the ordinary days nobody knew they would miss.
The days that changed us.
Loss arrives with names and faces already known—not as spectacle, but as something that happened to people we loved.
The life that remained.
Grief, mistakes, friendship, community, survival, service, and the long question of what we do with the days we still have.
Your memories may be part of this story
People began remembering too.
Memory rarely returns in a straight line. A name brings back another name. A photograph opens a room you have not entered in forty years. Somebody remembers the smell of a place, the nickname everyone used, the car somebody drove, or the joke that still makes them laugh.
Those small things matter because lives are made from them.
If Dryden, its people, or this part of the world lives in your memory too, the door is open.
What remains
This story is looking not only at what happened to people, but at what happened because they were here.
Some of the people in this book are gone. Their influence isn't.
And the purpose is larger than memory alone. If these stories can help someone value the people around them, survive a hard season, understand that a flawed life can still move forward, or decide to show up for somebody else, then what happened in Dryden can keep doing useful work far beyond Dryden.
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Be here when tomorrow arrives.
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